Mother of the Bride - What is Your Role Before the Wedding?

Being the Mother of the Bride is an important role in a mother's journey. It takes on a new sense of pride and also can be overwhelming.

Do you know the do's and don't of being a MOTB (mother of the bride)?

Are you overstepping your boundaries or driving your daughter crazy?

Here is a refresher list of the Mother of the Bride duties so that you can keep yourself in check and your daughter happy.

1. Be excited for your daughter, this is one of biggest events of her life and she needs your support and also excitement as reassurance.

2. Extend a warm welcome to the groom and his family. There is always an undertone of protection or tension of a mother/daughter and mother/son. Try to avoid any signs of this as your daughter knows that you support.

3. Review your financial plans and then plan a casual meeting with daughter and groom to discuss their plans. At this time, early in the process you can discuss what you can or plan to help with. Then they will not be stressed about asking or assume on your participation in the wedding.

4. Feel out whether your daughter would like your input or help on wedding location. If so plan on visiting with her and ask about availability. Availability is key in setting the date.

5. If there are details about the wedding planning that you would like to be part of, speak up. Examples: bridal gown, guest list, music, etc.

6. Supply your daughter with family members names and addresses for guest list. Although keep in mind that this is their wedding and your neighbors or tennis partner is not necessarily the right fit for your list on contributions. Also be kept up to date on your guests' reply and be prepared to follow up with them if they have not replied timely.

7. Attend all wedding showers or engagement parties and offer help. It is not customary for the mother of the bride to host any, but offering help while at the party should always be offered.

8. Another duty to is to get yourself prepared. (See upcoming post on Mom's Boot Camp for Weddings)

Above all be excited, a wedding may be a lot of work but it is a beautiful experience for everyone included, especially you.


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